Few days back, a client of mine – let’s call her Maureen – told me that a few years ago a man she dated broke up with her, saying she was ugly.
I felt sad to hear it and wondered why this person would say such a thing. I was surprised to see that she remembered the man and his words so clearly even after such a long time. It seems she was deeply hurt at that time, and as she mentioned it to me, it still hurts her now.
In our dating lives and in our relationships,
We’ve all been told things that have deeply hurt us and have carried those things with us for a long time.
In some cases, it has also shaped how we view and perceive ourselves. We’ve all done and said things to people that we are not proud of.
When you are dating and many times when its not working or for any reason a man wants to break with you or trying to get you do something , Men might says things that hurt you deeply.
Most men don’t even think about what they are saying because they don’t attach much meaning to their words and are not attuned to how a woman can feel when something very negative is said about her.
Why do we want to put too much meaning into what someone says?
It brings tears to our eyes and makes us question our self-worth.
This is how we, women, lose our power.
We allow space in our hearts and minds for men, family, and colleagues to define us. Men can say things for many reasons; we don’t have to delve too deeply into it.
We need to embrace who we are and not get derailed by any man.
When you date in a high-value way and embrace your feminine power, men who cannot control you will say many things.
A man who I refused to have sex with before engagement told me that I had intimacy fears and questioned how I could preach about relationships to others.
I felt very angry and hurt by his comment, but I did not bother explaining; I just blocked him.
I get told by many people every day so many things about myself.
Just yesterday, a guy commented on my post calling me fat.
All these people are nobodies. I know who I am, and I embrace that. I am imperfect and happy to be that way.
Nobody requires a certificate from anyone.
Ladies, many men will tell you many things when you are on the path to attracting your Mr. Right.
Some of them might break your heart too.
I would love to hear you if you have been told things by men that made you question your self-worth and how did it make you feel.
